For most parents, the main goal of raising kids is to help bring up happy, healthy teens who become happy, healthy adults. However, more and more parents are struggling to raise teens who can then go out into the world and live productive lives. While there are many reasons for this, one thing that can help kids and teens become upstanding adults is to seek to make them well-adjusted from an early age.
So in addition to doing things like eating together at the dining table as much as possible and providing your kids with the love and safety they deserve, here are three things parents can do to raise more well-adjusted teenagers.
Allow Your Kids To Figure Out Who They Are
Part of being a well-adjusted adult means having confidence in who you are and what you are capable of. But in order to get to this point as an adult, you have to have had the freedom to explore when you were younger.
For many parents, it’s often easier to make your kids and teens an extension of yourself than to allow them the space and freedom to figure out who they are and what they like. But if you’re able to do this, to let go a bit and allow your kids to uncover what their own interests and talents are, this can help to build your teen’s confidence and assist them in better knowing and understanding who they are in this world.
Encourage Them To Make Their Own Decisions
As your kids move further and further into their teenage years, it becomes more and more important that you allow them to make some of their own decisions in life.
Hopefully, you’ve spent the first decade-plus of their life teaching them how to know right from wrong and how to think through their decisions. Now, it’s time to give them a little space and allow them to learn from choices that they choose to make. While you can and should still be there to guide them, giving them the chance to make their own choices now, when risks are low, can help them to be much more well-adjusted when they become full-fledged adults.
Teach Then About Healthy Boundaries
Another thing you can do to help your teens live well-adjusted lives as adults is to teach them about healthy boundaries.
From a very young age, you can begin to talk with your kids about what boundaries they want to set and what boundaries you want to set for them. Then, the more they learn how to listen to what’s comfortable to them and what they are willing to accept from other people, the better off they will be with setting healthy boundaries as adults as well.
If you’re wanting to give your kids the best chance of being well-adjusted adults, consider implementing some of the parenting tips mentioned above as your kids become teens.